The Last Time: Why You (and I) Can Stop Starting Over

Why, hello, everyone! It is so great to see your bright and smiling faces back on this blog again! I am super excited to connect (and reconnect) with so many of you again.

Have you ever felt that tickle of apprehension? That moment when you’re about to launch back into something that you have tried before…and quit? You want so badly for it to work out this time — but you’re terrified.

For those of you who know me, you know I have blogged off and on for quite some time. I remember writing with in my teens, on Myspace, on, and then finally with the official address in 2013. The blog continued for a time, and then lapsed as I worked on my Master’s in Counseling degree. I picked it back up again in 2015 for a whopping two posts, and then it died off again as I focused on building my counseling practice.

So with a record of off-and-on blogging, why am I even starting again? What makes this time different?

This time: I’m here to stay.

I heard this quote:

'If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up.'Click To Tweet

Oooh. Ouch.

Now, I heard this quote in the context of working out (another habit I am working into my daily life). But I believe it applies to so many other areas of life.

As a kid, I loved writing and dreamt of being a writer one day; and now I am ready to stop giving up on that dream. It is now or never if I am going to start and sustain a writing habit. But more than that, on my blog, I want to use my writing to help other people…to encourage them, to support them, to remind them of who they can be. That’s important–and I know, because that’s what I have needed along life’s way. When I realized all of this, I knew I needed to start my blogging again.

Will I be perfect? Heavens, no! But do I plan to give up this time? NO.

How about you?

Now, I know many of you have been there, too. You’ve started over so many times on THAT THING that you now wonder if it’s even possible to succeed.

Maybe it’s been one too many times you’ve started a healthier lifestyle. Perhaps you pumped yourself up to read the Bible daily, only to find yourself snoozing over the Scriptures on the second morning. Maybe it’s your marriage — maybe you read a dozen marriage books and attended counseling, but the spark refuses to come back. Or perhaps it’s that addiction you can’t leave, that unhealthy relationship you can’t quit, that person you can’t forgive.

Hopeless, wouldn’t you say? After all, you’ve tried. Like, 50 times. Best to let it go now; accept your lot in life.


What if…

What if there really was a way to keep from starting over?Click To Tweet What if it really was as simple as not giving up? Not doing it perfectly…but refusing to quit. Do you think you could do that?

I think you could. Absolutely. 100%.

And sure, I know that re-starting a blog is nothing compared to some of the challenges staring at you. But I also know that I once sat on a bed, hopeless about a condition that had never gone away in 18 years. No number of prayers, no number of medicines, no hours of therapy, could make my depression finally stop. And as poorly as I handled many of those years with severe major depressive disorder, I learned to do one thing right:

I did not give up.

To give up meant death. And I would not go there, even though sometimes I wished I could.

Do you know what the crazy thing is? I sit here today and haven’t had a major depressive episode in over a YEAR. I know! I have not felt this way about life since before I reached 13. And for an almost-32-year-old, that is saying something.

So I’m inviting you to do this with me: to stop starting over. Your life is waiting to be lived–and not just lived, but lived with delight, and joy, and ABUNDANCE.

What to Expect

On this blog, we are going to be talking about three things that, I believe, give us the greatest LIFE possible: Faith, Hope, and Love. We’ll look at how matters of faith, hope for change, and the love between us and others can contribute to a life you never thought possible.

This blog, though, cannot succeed without you; because this is a conversation, and we won’t truly learn unless we walk alongside each other.

So here’s my deal: I’m going to keep living a life that’s been hard, though it’s healing, and I will not give up on it. I am going to write this blog, and I will not give up on it, either. I’m asking you to join me in this. Whatever you’re ready to give up on, don’t…not yet, ok? Give it just a little more time. Let’s do this together.

Because maybe if we don’t give up on ourselves, and if we don’t give up on each other…maybe, just MAYBE…amazing things can happen.

I’m willing to take the chance. How about you?