The Last Time: Why You (and I) Can Stop Starting Over

Why, hello, everyone! It is so great to see your bright and smiling faces back on this blog again! I am super excited to connect (and reconnect) with so many of you again.

Have you ever felt that tickle of apprehension? That moment when you’re about to launch back into something that you have tried before…and quit? You want so badly for it to work out this time — but you’re terrified.

For those of you who know me, you know I have blogged off and on for quite some time. I remember writing with blogspot.com in my teens, on Myspace, on WordPress.com, and then finally with the official katyhelena.com address in 2013. The blog continued for a time, and then lapsed as I worked on my Master’s in Counseling degree. I picked it back up again in 2015 for a whopping two posts, and then it died off again as I focused on building my counseling practice.

So with a record of off-and-on blogging, why am I even starting again? What makes this time different?

This time: I’m here to stay.

I heard this quote:

'If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up.'Click To Tweet

Oooh. Ouch.

Now, I heard this quote in the context of working out (another habit I am working into my daily life). But I believe it applies to so many other areas of life.

As a kid, I loved writing and dreamt of being a writer one day; and now I am ready to stop giving up on that dream. It is now or never if I am going to start and sustain a writing habit. But more than that, on my blog, I want to use my writing to help other people…to encourage them, to support them, to remind them of who they can be. That’s important–and I know, because that’s what I have needed along life’s way. When I realized all of this, I knew I needed to start my blogging again.

Will I be perfect? Heavens, no! But do I plan to give up this time? NO.

How about you?

Now, I know many of you have been there, too. You’ve started over so many times on THAT THING that you now wonder if it’s even possible to succeed.

Maybe it’s been one too many times you’ve started a healthier lifestyle. Perhaps you pumped yourself up to read the Bible daily, only to find yourself snoozing over the Scriptures on the second morning. Maybe it’s your marriage — maybe you read a dozen marriage books and attended counseling, but the spark refuses to come back. Or perhaps it’s that addiction you can’t leave, that unhealthy relationship you can’t quit, that person you can’t forgive.

Hopeless, wouldn’t you say? After all, you’ve tried. Like, 50 times. Best to let it go now; accept your lot in life.

Except…

What if…

What if there really was a way to keep from starting over?Click To Tweet What if it really was as simple as not giving up? Not doing it perfectly…but refusing to quit. Do you think you could do that?

I think you could. Absolutely. 100%.

And sure, I know that re-starting a blog is nothing compared to some of the challenges staring at you. But I also know that I once sat on a bed, hopeless about a condition that had never gone away in 18 years. No number of prayers, no number of medicines, no hours of therapy, could make my depression finally stop. And as poorly as I handled many of those years with severe major depressive disorder, I learned to do one thing right:

I did not give up.

To give up meant death. And I would not go there, even though sometimes I wished I could.

Do you know what the crazy thing is? I sit here today and haven’t had a major depressive episode in over a YEAR. I know! I have not felt this way about life since before I reached 13. And for an almost-32-year-old, that is saying something.

So I’m inviting you to do this with me: to stop starting over. Your life is waiting to be lived–and not just lived, but lived with delight, and joy, and ABUNDANCE.

What to Expect

On this blog, we are going to be talking about three things that, I believe, give us the greatest LIFE possible: Faith, Hope, and Love. We’ll look at how matters of faith, hope for change, and the love between us and others can contribute to a life you never thought possible.

This blog, though, cannot succeed without you; because this is a conversation, and we won’t truly learn unless we walk alongside each other.

So here’s my deal: I’m going to keep living a life that’s been hard, though it’s healing, and I will not give up on it. I am going to write this blog, and I will not give up on it, either. I’m asking you to join me in this. Whatever you’re ready to give up on, don’t…not yet, ok? Give it just a little more time. Let’s do this together.

Because maybe if we don’t give up on ourselves, and if we don’t give up on each other…maybe, just MAYBE…amazing things can happen.

I’m willing to take the chance. How about you?

24 thoughts on “The Last Time: Why You (and I) Can Stop Starting Over

  1. Thanks! I needed these words tonight. I look forward to reading what God leads you to share.

    1. I am so glad to hear that, Betty! We all need to hear these words–myself most of all! Thank you for reading. I look forward to connecting with you further on this blog!

  2. This is perfect! Just what I needed to hear right now. I need more of this in my life. Faith, Hope, and Love gives me Life. No. I won’t give up. Yes. I will join you. 🙂

    1. Wow, Vy, I love this! I am so thrilled that you will be joining us! And even more thrilled that you won’t be giving up. 🙂

  3. Amazing Katy!!! I can’t wait to see just how far you go… and I will be here cheering you on every step of the way!

  4. Thank you, Katy! You have inspired me for a long time and I love your honesty and vulnerability. I can’t wait to see what else God brings up in the conversations here!

    1. Thank you so much, Sarah! Your own writings have been very inspiring to me as well – I am thrilled to have you joining in on the conversation here!

  5. I absolutely love this and needed it! I’ve given up more than 50 times. Can’t wait to see what else you have in store!

  6. This is a very inspirational post! It’s funny how certain things come into your life at what seems like the perfect time. This post was one of them and I gave me that encouragement and inspiration that I needed. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your stories.

  7. Love you , Katy! Glad you’ve started over! Excited to read your posts . One thing i know about you, you’re not a quitter!

  8. Good morning, Katy. I have enjoyed reading your thoughts this morning. The are a good reminder to all of us. Thanks for being willing to open yourself up to all of us; I know this is risky. May you experience the warm and fun Presence of the Lord today. We love you. Uncle Jerry

  9. I have been struggling a lot lately. So, this was exactly what I needed to read at exactly the right time. And I give God the glory in arranging that. I thank Him for using you to be such an encouragement to others. Thank you for being open and honest as that allows others to be the same. Can’t wait to read your future blogs!

    1. Jamie, I was so grateful and humbled to read your comment! Yes, praise God for arranging encouragement for you just when you need it. I know He will continue to encourage and uphold you. I’m glad my writing could play some small part in it. Thanks for reading, and I look forward to seeing you around the blog more!

  10. Thank you for connecting with me over in the other group page. I am so glad to read your first blog today. You know I have struggled with a lot of starts n stops too. Last year especially as we have been trying to walk this journey of adoption, and many times I felt so inadequate and weak. I felt that I was not going to be able to be a good mom to the children being hand selected for us. 2 years ago we lost our long awaited for baby. We have been married 13 years and have tried to get pregnant and when I finally did that was the best day of my life March 14th, 2014 was the day our pregnancy was confirmed by a doctor. And April 15th was the day we found out we lost our blessing. On March 9th before we had found out we were expecting I received a quote from an app on my phone. It’s a quote from CS Lewis: When we lose one blessing another is often most unexpectedly given in its place. I’ve been struggling with anxiety since the miscarriage and have to remind myself to breathe. Deciding to adopt did not come easily for me. But I have yielded to God for his divine plan and now we are excited for the next step in our process which will be that long awaited phone call that there is a child for us. Along the way, I have met people who have gone through similar struggles and it’s been helpful to talk to them about my own. Your blog is a shining light. I am so glad I was able to read it tonight. I hope to see more soon. God bless.

    1. Melissa, thanks for stopping by and reading! It has been great to connect with you in our blogging group as well! I am so glad that the blog post could be an encouragement to you at this time. What a journey you are on of adoption! You are doing a great thing, and of course the Enemy is going to want to convince you that you can’t be good at this. He is afraid of how great you will be and what an eternal impact you could make! I am so sorry for the loss of your own child. Miscarriages are heartbreaking. I know God will honor you for yielding to His plan for your life, and I believe you will be used mightily! Please do not give up – you will be such a blessing to many. Thank you again for reading and commenting – thanks for sharing your own story. You will be in my prayers. I look forward to seeing you more around the blog!

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